Sitting here now, reflecting, I ‘know’ something for sure, I have complete confidence in the absolute integrity of my own experience. 

That’s really the beginning and ending of all that I offer others through my writing and work…..but I notice something else, which creates enormous power for me….when it comes to my opinions on stuff, doesn’t matter what it is……I am almost certainly wrong….or at best partly wrong….about everything 😃

The liberty knowing this brings is wonderful, holding this way of thinking seems to create space to truly hear others when they disagree with me.

These days I am not really that concerned about what others think about me, I have stuff I want to share that I think some people will find supportive of their life, some won’t be interested etc, but so what, right? 

Some people will copy my content, so what right?

The ‘Truth’, I am an expert on my own experience and no one can express my experience like I can. 

There is a trap in all this, and here it is, when I mistake my experience for anything like the ‘objective truth’ about anything. My experience is only ever ‘just’ my experience. 

A Conversation That Transforms….are you ready for one? https://birthingawareness.com/2017/04/10/a-conversations-that-tramsform-are-you-ready-for-one/

In many ways the words that everyone uses are specific and mean what they say, given the internal ‘context’ of the person saying them.

That’s one of the challenges when it comes to human communication.

A conversation can feel like verbal martial arts at times can’t it?

It’s one of the reasons I find the model of NLP so much fun and have maintained a desire to keep on learning about it for many years.

The words we use are like ‘icons’ on the desk top, they could be called the ‘surface structure’.

The words people use are pointing us in the direction of a much deep ‘internal structure’ that the person has.

This deeper structure, or map of ‘reality’, is the source of our mind and body state in the moment when we speak out the words we are using.

The words people are using are not right or wrong in any kind of moral sense, but the are creating some kind of effect in those who hear them.
As we begin to understand how language directs the meaning making search of those who are listening to us, we can offer people directions for that search that might be very useful to them indeed.

And of course, as we begin to hear our ‘internal conversation’, which tends to trundle along outside of consciousness, our own personal transformation becomes more than just a possibility ☺
If you want to learn the NLP Model and start to apply it to your life and work as a professional birth worker, click the link below.

A one day workshop for birth workers. Book a place.

 

If you have 6 minutes click to see a video of Mark Harris talking about the one day workshop

This might sound melodramatic but when Diane (my late wife) was diagnosed with cancer for the first time nearly 18 years ago, NLP saved my life, at very least that’s how it feels.
We were home schooling 5 children under 7 years old at the time, and I was working long hours to make enough money for us to live on.
When I heard the news, my mind went into ‘melt down’, horrendous ‘hallucinations’ of future events began to play out in my mind, what I discovered through NLP, enabled me to begin, slowly at first, to take back ‘control’ of my thinking and my life.

What is NLP?

Neuro Linguistic Programming is fundamentally a ‘model of communication’. Discovered my Dr Bandler & Dr Grinder in the early 1970’s.
Neuro, refers to the nervous system: NLP uses the principles and patterns of the nervous system.

Linguistics, points to NLP’s understanding that in some ways language is a product of the nervous system, but NLP goes further in stating that language ‘stimulates’ and ‘shapes’ activity deep within the ‘meaning-making’ patterns of human beings.

Programming refers to NLP’s insight into the process of human learning, memory and creativity as functions of the ‘neuro linguistic programs’ present within every human beings, both conscious patterns and unconscious ones ( borrowed from the work of R Dilts).

Why ‘should’ a birth worker learn NLP?

Because:

You will learn how to develop a deep sense of rapport with anyone, this sense of connection development can become almost instant.

You will discover a greater degree of flexibility in your use of language, using words and ‘language patterns’ that connect to those you are speaking too.

You will find that your ‘message’ will be understood by those you want to receive it with little effort.

You will gain a greater control over your own tendency to think the worst.

You will Increase you ability to set a goal and see it through to the finish.

Your ability to support a woman giving birth will increase.

Your birth teaching will ‘hit the mark’ more often

You will have a foundational understanding of what NLP is (and isn’t).

You will know how to ‘break’ personal, persistent habits once and for all.
You will start to build the skills necessary to support women who have experienced birth as traumatic.

You will have had a personal insights as to the power of NLP to change your experience of life as you live it.

How does becoming skilled in NLP lead to all these benefits and more?

To the outside observer the results that some people, skilled in NLP achieve, look like magic….but beneath the apparent effortless work of the practitioner of NLP, is a deeply held insight into the ‘structure of human experience’. This insight, once it takes hold will lead to all the above effects and more, I know this to be true from my experience over 15 years.

Using the skills and techniques of NLP brings to the birth worker a way of ‘seeing’, ‘hearing’ and even ‘feeling’, the way others are ‘creating’ their unique experience of the world.

This is a foundation, one day program which will kick start your own journey into communication mastery

Date:

Sunday May 21 2017

Times:

9:30 (For 10 am)- 4pm (Coffee and Tea will be provide, do bring food. There are shops near by)

Cost: £39 (This day can be used for CPD. Students of all kinds email me directly if money is an issue mark@birthing4blokes.com). After the workshop is completed, Slides, Reflective writing frame and certificate is available to all participants.

Venue:

Tummy2Mummy Baby Scans & Midwifery Services
27 New Street, Hinckley, Leicestershire, LE10 1QY (for sat nav use LE10 1QZ)

Tummy2Mummy are conveniently located five minutes from
Junction 1 and 2 of the M69 in Hinckley town centre (On Sundays there is lots of free parking near by)

Book Now to secure your place, Click here: THIS IS THE PAYPAL BUTTON

Should you need to cancel having booked a place, a place will be made available to you on a future program at no extra charge 😊

I only have room for 20 people 😔

 

This might sound melodramatic but when Diane (my late wife) was diagnosed with cancer for the first time nearly 18 years ago, NLP saved my life, at very least that’s how it feels.

We were home schooling 5 children under 7 years old at the time, and I was working long hours to make enough money for us to live on.

When I heard the news, my mind went into ‘melt down’, horrendous ‘hallucinations’ of future events began to play out in my mind, what I discovered through NLP, enabled me to begin, slowly at first, to take back ‘control’ of my thinking and my life.

What is NLP?

Neuro Linguistic Programming is fundamentally a ‘model of communication’. Discovered my Dr Bandler & Dr Grinder in the early 1970’s.

Neuro, refers to the nervous system: NLP uses the principles and patterns of the nervous system.

Linguistics, points to NLP’s understanding that in some ways language is a product of the nervous system, but NLP goes further in stating that language ‘stimulates’ and ‘shapes’ activity deep within the ‘meaning-making’ patterns of human beings.

Programming refers to NLP’s insight into the process of human learning, memory and creativity as functions of the ‘neuro linguistic programs’ present within every human beings, both conscious patterns and unconscious ones ( borrowed from the work of R Dilts).

Why ‘should’ a birth worker learn NLP?

Because:

You will learn how to develop a deep sense of rapport with anyone, this sense of connection development can become almost instant.

You will discover a greater degree of flexibility in your use of language, using words and ‘language patterns’ that connect to those you are speaking too.

You will find that your ‘message’ will be understood by those you want to receive it with little effort.

You will gain a greater control over your own tendency to think the worst.

You will Increase you ability to set a goal and see it through to the finish.

Your ability to support a woman giving birth will increase.

Your birth teaching will ‘hit the mark’ more often

You will have a foundational understanding of what NLP is (and isn’t).

You will know how to ‘break’ personal, persistent habits once and for all.

You will start to build the skills necessary to support women who have experienced birth as traumatic.

You will have had a personal insights as to the power of NLP to change your experience of life as you live it.

How does becoming skilled in NLP lead to all these benefits and more?

To the outside observer the results that some people, skilled in NLP achieve, look like magic….but beneath the apparent effortless work of the practitioner of NLP, is a deeply held insight into the ‘structure of human experience’.

Using the skills and techniques of NLP brings to the birth worker a way of ‘seeing’, ‘hearing’ and even ‘feeling’, the way others are ‘creating’ their unique experience of the world.

This is a foundation program which will kick start your own journey into communication mastery…..it’s a video based online program, when you buy it you will get:

2 videos explaining the fundamentals of NLP
1 video recording of a Live Webinar where some basic NLP strategies are presented and tested.
11 video’s explaining the NLP presuppositions (principles)
A 200 plus page introduction to NLP book.
An Exercise book that comes with the handbook.
One hour (unedited) audio recording of an interview between Mark and Chris Evans.

….and you will have gained all this for £27 (not the £1000 it can cost to do other foundation courses in the wider NLP community)

Here how to get the online program

 

 

 

This is a question that I ask myself regularly. 

The answers I give are useful to me because they often uncover areas of dissatisfaction in my life that I am settling for. Kind of living with, like they are the ‘truth’. 

In settling for, and living under the dissatisfaction, I have submitted to being at the ‘effect’ of the circumstances, my feelings etc. 

Life is not going to turn out how it ‘should’, it turns out how it does, and this is it, right now. 

It will be ‘completed’ in no other place…….’my life will be better when, (add anything you like, when I lose weight, have more money etc)…..has often been an unspoken refrain in my less than conscious inner dialogue. 

What’s the truth? 

When I die I will be no less or more satisfied than I am right now. 

The question above helps me to see when I am living my life in the context of being a complaint about life itself, there is no power for living in this place. 

Some one once said, ‘you either have the life you want, or the reasons why you don’t have it’. 

Living like the reasons are ‘true’ works like a justification for the dissatisfaction you are experiencing. 

Spend some time with the question, and see what you uncover.