Why do I dislike the use of the phrase ‘My Ladies’ so much?
I think it’s the suggestion of possession, that some how the midwife has ownership of the pregnant women they care for. It under cuts a woman’s autonomy; they already have all the power they need inside to birth well.
‘Ladies’ is a deferential term that historically men have used towards the ‘weaker sex’, we should drop it, along with every other term of endearment like , love, dear and babe.
Every pregnant woman we meet is an expert on her own body and experience. She may not know anything about the structures that we’ve imposed on birth; She might not know anything about the imaginary measurements we have invented for this mysteriously unfolding birthing story, but she is an expert when it comes to responding to her body.
She wants some support, she may need some gentle pointing and directing to her inner capacity for birthing.
What she doesn’t need is an ‘expert’ suggesting that the power to birth is out-side in .