I really enjoyed the first Workshop presented to birth professionals in Milton Kyenes. I have learnt many things from doing it and the feed back I received from the amazing women that attended.
Listening is a fundamentally important ‘skill’ when being with women as they give birth, we all have some idea of what we mean when we talk about listening and we probably imagine that we are good at it.
My guess is that I will be the last person to realise that I’m not a good listener!
What I do notice is that when I am listening there is a sense of ‘stillness’ inside me, a lack of movement either inwards or outwards, difficult to explain, it’s a feeling.
Like listening to wordless music, or hearing poetry being read, this type of ‘listening’ leaves Space for fresh Wisdom to arise. The other kind of ‘listening’ which is more like ‘processing’ only has the past as its reference point.
I wrote what follows a while ago and as I read it it ‘feels’ right to me……
‘Listening’ is not an activity. It’s a ‘state’ of being, which has no ‘edges’ and encompasses ALL. Listening is Formless. It doesn’t begin or end, it wasn’t born so will not die. Listening ‘is’ Who I Am….every ‘thing’ that ‘happens’ is heard, seen and felt Here…
Listening is a metaphor for ‘experiencing’?
“When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.” anon
The Listening I’m speaking about here is neither good nor bad, ‘mindfulness’ may ‘happen’ within it, but ‘it’ is not really a’thing’ or even a ‘state’, words cannot describe ‘it’. This Listening feels deeply familiar and ‘everything’ seems to ‘float’ inside ‘it’…
This Listening I’m talking about here, can’t be added too, because it seems to include Everything