Just been speaking to someone who is hosting one of the workshops I’m doing this year, we were taking about people who had said they were coming, about concerns regarding those who had paid and hadn’t yet.
She was a little worried about covering costs, cancelling and the like….as we spoke ‘in text messages’ I connected with my ‘why’ and suddenly ‘clarity’ hit me between the eyes, and when I’d ‘seen’ it, Peace reigned, a wave of clear thinking that settled deep at the ‘heart level’…..here’s what I wrote:
Forget it I’m coming. Covering petrol is all we have to do as a foundation, and tbh meeting with a small group in someone’s house would rock as far as I’m concerned. I’m committed to pregnant couples and the professional birth community, that’s all☺️
Then I started thinking about making money, and how if I’m not careful financial considerations become more of a ‘master’ than the servent of my invented ‘why’s’ in life that they probably ‘should’ be.
As the ‘light dawned’ I saw how the business games I play could instead serve my big ‘why’☺️
The business side is a fun game to play isn’t it? But it’s not the reason for any of it, it’s a great way to measure how others perceive the value of what I’m offering but that’s it ☺️
Five Benefits of men being prepared to be with their lovers as they give birth.
1 Insight into how human beings have evolved to give birth well, increases confidence, gives direction to the support they can offer her, and enhances their ability to be resilient if the birth does not go as expected.
2 Being prepared, increases his ability to proactively create the deep connection need, that will massively facilitate her production of the birthing process dynamite oxytocin.
3 Having an experience of building this type of connection with his lover before she gives birth, will produce a deepening in his relationship with her, leading to a strong foundation being built for the emerging family .
4 Preparing via regular massaging, TEN s machine use, and understanding the (so called) ‘latent phase’ of the birthing process, will increase the amount of time they spend out of the hospital and may reduce the length of her birth experience.
5 Understanding the importance of having the ‘goal’ of connecting with her while she births, will produce testosterone in him, reducing his stress response. Having connection with her as a goal will to his ‘fixing’ habits being focused on that outcome and will reduce any panicked response to Enviromental changes.
Becoming clearer and clearer about the ‘stories’ I am living in generates peace as a place to come from in me, not a place to get to☺️
I tend at this time of year to get caught in the ‘goal setting’ trap. Goal setting seems such a good thing too do, and it can be when flowing from Peace, to often in my experience goal setting has been a panicked response to trying to GET peace, and from that place has seldom been helpful.
What is your ‘experience’ of the ‘story’ you are living in at the moment?
Unravelling those ‘stories’ ☺️and ‘Seeing’ the story beneath it is a great starting place.
The most powerful ‘intentions’ I set are paradoxically the ones I forget about , when they unfold I’m surprised☺️.
Setting an intention is powerful communication with unconscious process.
Spend time ‘losing yourself’ in ‘intentions’, write em down, then burn em, feeling a deep sense of ‘Peace’☺️