It’s tricky isn’t it? A deep respect, notice I didn’t say like, or have a desire to hang out with them as mates.
The kind of respect that acknowledges that person as some one who has thought through their position, and expresses it with an intelligent grasp of the issues.
They probably keep away from the ‘personal attack’ style of rhetoric, they don’t ‘preach’ or set up ‘straw man’ arguments.
As I thought about who the people are that I disagree with, almost completely, yet deeply respect, I struggled to think of many people who fell into that category.
Why is that?
Maybe there just isn’t many of them, maybe my opinions are just so elevated and intellectually superior that those of others can’t compare with them?
That can’t be it can it? Just ask my girl friend, or children and they will put right on that front!
So why is it?
My guess is that I have elevated my ‘opinion’ to the status of ‘Fact’ and in the process created a ‘moral value’.
Those ‘Moral values’ go on to act as unconscious ‘filters’, filtering for the way I perceive those I disagree with.
I do not see others as they are, but as I am.
What can I do about it?
While this process is going on outside of your awareness you will be the ‘victim’ of it, the unwitting ‘puppet’ led into conflict with others, with little knowledge of why you dislike them so much.
From this mind/body state being able to listen to another until we truly understand is near impossible.
My practice has been to notice the intensity of my dislike of the one who’s opinion is different to mine, this noticing seems to create the space I need to catch a glimpse of my own ‘moral judgement’ led blindness.
So who is it you respect but disagree with?
For me Peter Hitchens comes to mind☺️