8 years ago today I thought my life had ended, when my wife of twenty years died in my arms, my world become monochromic, time seemed to stop in its tracks and my body felt so heavy I struggled to get out of bed.
Men, Love & Birth has won an award ☺️
The truth of it, I never planned to write a book, start a podcast, speak at conferences or run workshops.
Speaking at the doula conference 3 years ago, was my first birth related public event; thank you Doula Uk!
Pinter & Martin approached me about writing a book and I said yes please and the rest as they say is history.
I spent 18 months ‘trying’ to write a book, I was running out of time, the deadline had been extended twice, Martin was getting worried.
Then it happened, I heard kurt vonnegut speaking about writing (no comparison intended). He said something about his writing process that changed my mind about writing dramatically.
‘Each of us writes what he must write’
And else where he say:
‘write to an audience of one’
When hearing him say these things something broke free in me, I knew there was stuff I ‘must’ write, and my audience became my adult sons, in fact all the men in the ‘conversation’ section of the book are my sons☺️
The book came out of me in its current form in 6 weeks, of course a writer is as good as his editor and Susan Last from Lonely Scribe is AMAZING.
When it was written I truly didn’t care if anyone read it or liked it, to have my experience comitted to writing as a gift to my children was all the reward I needed.
Ps: Thank you Pinter & Martin, Doula Uk and Susan Last