Desperate to be involved, to know as much as he can, feeling totally out of control and wanting to ‘fix’ every questions she has.
I ask him ‘ do you know when you really feel connected to her’?
‘Yes’, he finally says.
‘How do you know she feels it too’?
He seems to be pondering…..
I leave space for his internal considerations….
I go on, ‘Think of times in your life together when that feeling of connection has been almost tangible…….
Then I say, ‘as you think about those times, can you almost, FEEL IT NOW….’?
Face aglow he says ‘yes’!
‘Well’ I continue, ‘when she is giving birth seek to create that feeling….’
The only thing that needs fixing is making sure you maintain ‘THAT FEELING’………as she is in the birthing process.