When it comes to doing domestic stuff around the house, I have a ‘mantra’, ‘what would Trez do’?
It’s not that her ways is the right way, or even the best way, it’s ‘just’ her way.
When I do it her way, she ‘feels’ better.
Of course listening to her talk about why she does it that way (until she has finished), and then offering suggestions about different ways happens too.