Making the distinction between what happened….and the stories we make up….i.e. The meaning we make up out of the raw material of what happened….this distinction can be powerful…..
Humans tend to live inside the experience of the stories they create.
When it comes to stories, and looking at the stories once you have frozen them in time by writing them down, there is a distinction which you may find helpful.
Here it is: write two columns, top of one column write what happened, and the other head ‘story’.
Under the what happened column write down everything that you would write down if that you can verify by sensory sensory experience….
….In other words as if you where watching it happen on a video….another person would see and hear it too.
Closer we can get to primary data…sensory experience the better…..
Living in the felt experience of a story is the human condition, it’s prob the only way to relate to ‘reality’, it’s just that most human beings are unaware of the ‘stories’ that run their lives outside of consciousness……